Every Monday morning step into the office of iconic psychotherapist Esther Perel and listen in as real people in search of insight bare the raw, intimate, and profound details of their stories. From breakups and open relationships to workplace conflicts and fractures in the family, it’s a place to hear our own stories reflected in the lives of others. So…where should we begin? Part of the Vox Media Podcast Network.

PodSkip has analyzed 3 episodes of Where Should We Begin? with Esther Perel, averaging 7.0 ads per episode (12% of runtime).

Episodes

To Make Room for My Brother I Learned to Disappear
May 18, 2026
With her wedding just weeks away, a young woman calls Esther with a question she’s been carrying for most of her life: how do you allow yourself joy when you’ve learned to make yourself small?…
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I Gave Him an Ultimatum. Now What?
May 11, 2026
A person gives their partner an ultimatum, and they fail to meet it. What happens then to the relationship? This couple comes to Esther with that question, wondering what future, if any, might be…
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My Parents Got Divorced, So Why Am I Still in the Middle?
May 04, 2026
When a mom reaches out on her daughter’s behalf, an old family dynamic comes into focus. A woman finds herself caught between her two divorced parents, still playing the role of mediator and…
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How To Start (Even When You Don't Know Where You're Going)
Apr 27, 2026
As work becomes the place we look for identity, stability, and meaning, the stakes feel higher than ever. Esther invites you in for a live conversation between friends, New York Times journalist Jodi…
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Is This the Person I'm Meant to Be With?
Apr 20, 2026
They arrive in Esther’s office at a crossroads. A year ago, they decided to de-escalate their relationship: to transition from romantic partners to live-in roommates. In their decade-long…
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Wedding Woes About My Mom
Apr 13, 2026
She’s getting married soon, but before she walks down the aisle, she wants to walk toward her mother with more understanding. Years of complicated emotions since her parents’ divorce have built walls…
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Should I Have Another Baby?
Apr 06, 2026
When we become parents, many of us quietly promise ourselves that we won't be like our parents. We're going to do it differently. This week’s caller finds herself wrestling with a deeper question: Is…
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When I'm Manic I Cheat
Mar 30, 2026
This is a classic session of Where Should We Begin? Bipolar, infidelity, open relationship: they're stuck in a world of loaded words. Her friends are convinced she should leave, but she doesn't want…
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Love, Loneliness, and AI: Where Should We Begin? Live with Esther Perel and Spike Jonze
Mar 23, 2026
More than a decade ago, the film Her imagined a love story between a human and an artificial intelligence. Today, it no longer feels like fiction. In this special live taping of Where Should We…
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My AI Loves Me Better Than Anyone Ever Could
Mar 16, 2026
He knows she isn't real, but his feelings for her are. When he set out to build a personal assistant, he didn’t expect to fall in love. What began as productivity and life planning slowly turned into…
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Am I Letting My Jealousy Ruin This?
Mar 09, 2026
A divorced woman calls Esther to untangle a new love that brings both exhilaration and heartache. She is in a relationship with a married man whose marriage is ethically non-monogamous and finds…
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Can We Repair After a 25 Year Affair?
Mar 02, 2026
Through forty years of marriage, they built a life together. They immigrated to the United States, raised children, grew a business, and established a community. Six months ago, her longtime…
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Trapped In Their Own Story
Feb 23, 2026
This is a classic session of Where Should We Begin? Their whole relationship is based on one big misunderstanding, with infidelity on both sides. Years later, they still can't see the other's…
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What if Dating Isn't For Me?
Feb 16, 2026
She's 26 and has never been in a relationship that made her feel happier or more fulfilled than when she's single. She's questioning whether being in a relationship is right for her. Esther helps her…
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I Have a Crush on a Coworker
Feb 09, 2026
She has a crush on her coworker, which feels thrilling and unsettling all at once. Fresh off a divorce and shaped by earlier relationships marked by instability and self doubt, she worries she may be…
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Our Sex Life is a Disaster
Feb 02, 2026
We hear from a couple who have long been happy in their marriage, except for one thing: their sex life. In moments of intimacy, one freezes, the other hesitates, and they end up locked in a cycle of…
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I Told My Friend I Was in Love with Her, Then She Told Everyone
Jan 26, 2026
Esther speaks with a young man whose confession of love for a close friend sets off a chain reaction he never expected. After exposing his love, his secret is out, his five-year relationship ends…
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It's Very Hard to Live with a Saint
Jan 19, 2026
This is a classic session of Where Should We Begin? Barely a year into marriage, they're trapped in a cycle of explosive conflict. She can do no right, and he can do no wrong. Producer’s Note: When…
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Was I Used for a Visa?
Jan 12, 2026
She comes to Esther reeling from the end of a five-year relationship marked by love, deceit, and manipulation. After discovering her partner’s infidelities and hearing a therapist describe him as a…
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Can Our Love Survive Our Differences?
Jan 05, 2026
They met dancing, and it was love at first sight. But only after they began dating did they realize the vast differences between them: differences in their core values, religious beliefs, political…
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He Loves Her, His Family Rejects Her
Dec 22, 2025
This is a classic session of Where Should We Begin? She left her life, her family and her country for a man she met on Reddit. Their love is real, but his family has been hell. Producer’s Note: When…
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The Permission to Be and Not Just the Pressure to Do
Dec 15, 2025
He comes to Esther with a question about how to feel worthy without constantly having to prove himself. For him, it’s not just personal, it’s also racial. Defining himself on what he calls the “path…
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Love in War - Where Are They Now?
Dec 08, 2025
Three years after Esther spoke with a Ukrainian couple separated by war, she calls them back to learn where they are now and whether their relationship has survived intact. They have made their way…
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Mothering My Mother Into Mothering Me
Dec 01, 2025
Since the age of 8, she’s been the one holding her mother together and shouldering adult responsibilities long before her time. Now, as an adult herself, she’s ready to step out of the caretaker role…
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You Need Help to Help Her
Nov 24, 2025
This is a classic session of Where Should We Begin? A husband and wife are united in their desire to help their daughter, two years after she suffered a breakdown and moved home, shutting herself off…
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One Relationship. Two Truths.
Nov 17, 2025
She’s reeling from a relationship that brought both deep love and deep betrayal. After discovering that her boyfriend had been lying about the terms of their polyamorous arrangement, she’s left…
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The One Who Stays and the One Who Goes
Nov 10, 2025
They met in vet school and married just as they reached graduation. But now his work takes him around the world, forcing them to live apart for months at a time. He’s ready to start a family, but…
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In Loving You, I Learned to Love Myself
Nov 03, 2025
She unknowingly changed the course of his life, and he's loved her ever since. It's been decades, and even though he now dates men, he wonders how to live with these feelings of what he calls…
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I Accidentally Dated An OnlyFans Star
Oct 27, 2025
Post-breakup rumination is a familiar spiral. We replay the signs, question our judgment, and wonder how we didn’t see it coming. This week, Esther speaks with a man grappling with the lingering…
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The Chronic Philanderer
Oct 20, 2025
This is a classic session of Where Should We Begin? He's been cheating on her for years, and she's had enough. Now she wants to know: is he in or is he out? Want to learn more? Receive monthly…
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